First thing, first. Do you go to the gym? If not, you suck! Just kidding. Not all of us have that sort of dedication to be a couch potato, but that’s OK. 😉 But seriously, if you are a gym person, are you the type to wear an old t-shirt with a pair of random shorts or one who wears a sports bra with leggings? Well for one, I am not a gym person. Never did like it and never will. I prefer to work out at home and when I do get my gear together…well, honestly I grab an old tee with some shorts in the warmer seasons. In the colder seasons, I actually wear leggings with a sport bra or sport top. But recently I have been wearing exercise shorts along with my old tee. 🙂 🙂 🙂 But for you gym lovers, I know some of you become…
About getting to become a classy lady; Being a woman is different from being a lady more especially, the classy lady, (haha) I think there’s a bit of tautology classy ladies are excellent calling it “classy lady” because a “qualified lady” already has class..lol, if you agree with me, A lady, is a woman with “class” And I’ll be presenting a list of their routines if you’re tired of loosing it in the “ladyship” game. Trust me, you’ve got all it takes to be a lady, you’re “well loaded” A quote from our dear CoCo says;
“A lady should be two things; Classy and fabulous”
And so splad ladies, let’s get on a “fabulous” ride 😉
1. Values and Virtues: First of all, it’s your values that distinguishes you from the rest of the pack, be a woman that doesn’t waste her time doing what everyone else is doing but does what she does because she has a sense of purpose and direction, being full of conviction, she doesn’t steal, not because she has but because she knows the consequence and momentary pleasure associated with it. Always nurture your values, belong to a Worship Assembly and be active there.
2. Always Smile & Stay Positive: A smile is worth more than a thousand words, hides a lot of feelings and emotions and projects you as graceful. Like little drops of water make a mighty ocean, that’s how as little as a smile can take your look from barely dare to finish 😉 . It’s all you need to seal a look. A smile is contagious and so is your positive attitude. Smile more often 🙂
3. Posture matters: You don’t have to be a runway model to have a genuine lady posture; Practice makes perfect, walk with your chin up, it speaks confidence, just imagine if you had a soup bowl containing water on your head. You should Walk the Part, When you walk into an organisation, you can tell who’s the CEO or who’s in charge by their composure, you won’t expect to see someone with a grouchy step sit at the head of the table. She walks with Authority. Elegance and Gusto should radiate because you know exactly what you want and you’re confident in your steps. Even if you’re not confident, act like it, it’s attractive, no one wants to stick around someone who’s sure of nothing. Walk with your head held high, chin up, not looking at the ground while you walk, with your shoulders high and squared In a sentence, I’ll say “walk like a Queen” because you are one.
4. Be courteous: Always extend a hand if you’re meeting someone for the first time and always express gratitude for any favour shown you. Show you have manners and you’re not a beautiful but grumpy bratty Queen!
5.Workout: Exercise releases endorphins; which are “feel good hormones” and they motivate you to eat right. Find an exercise or sport you love, it could be swimming, start with it, and stick to a routine. Apart from exercise making you feel great, it tones your body it sculpts your back, strengthens your core, keeping your spine in shape thereby giving you a perfect posture all round.
6. Your speech: Learn how to speak and frame your words, let them not tear down but build up, keep words that don’t tell good of you, out of your vocabulary.
“Raise your words not your voice, It is rain that grows flowers not thunder”
(It could save a day) A lady doesn’t shout or yell on top of your voice no matter the circumstance but if need be, stress your words per syllable and don’t shout. It’s courteous.
7. Pay attention to your looks:
Being tattered isn’t attractive at all. Always look like you put an effort into your looks, “looking good, is good buisness” if your face is looking dull, you can get a lipstain to brighten it up (they work like magic!) You shouldn’t look like a clown either, find a colour that works for you, Never put on rumpled clothes, and try as much as you can, to get crease-free clothes. Put on the right shoes, you can make a mistake in coordinating your outfit but not your shoe choice. As Marilyn Monroe says; “Give a Lady the right pair of shoes and she will conquer the world” Never let your shoes spoil the show.
8. Signature Scent: Invest in a good glass of perfume with an amazing scent (It’s worth it). And personalise it 😉 Note: When going for perfume shopping, make sure you have no other scent on, and even as it’s best to test perfumes by spraying on your pulse(e.g wrists) do not rub your wrists together. And do well not to soak yourself up in too much fragrance..just a little should do.
Listen to critics selectively, and make adjustments where necessary, some things people say about you do not even matter at all. Conversely, don’t Gossip or say bad things behind people it’s “so not classy” It will kill you slowly, dent your image and damage your reputation. A lady with class wouldn’t talk ill of other people. These are my 9 steps, are there any more you have for me, roll the comments in, let me know what you think 🙂
I think people are scared of the fashion world for one particular reason. They just don’t feel they fit in.
I have gathered from many friends and co-workers that they feel the fashion world is only meant for the elite. The privileged few who get a special invite to this club are those who are able to afford designer clothes such as Marc Jacobs or Dior, have a monthly subscription to Vogue, post hundreds of outfit pictures on their well-known fashion blogs, and obviously know all the upcoming trends from New York Fashion Week. We easily believe that if we aren’t a part of this elite group, then we can’t ever be stylish and participate in the world of fashion.
I’m here to tell you that this is a huge lie.
The thing is people tend to be believe that style and fashion are defined as the same exact thing when in reality, they are actually very different terms. Fashion is defined as “a popular trend, especially in styles of dress and ornament or manners of behavior.” However, style is defined as a “manner of doing something,” and “a distinctive appearance.”
Fashion is about following a popular trend, but style is about making yourself distinct. It’s about being unique, original, and especially comfortable in how you want to dress. Of course, following the latest trends from NYFW is addicting and fun to do, but I think there is also an art to being stylish based on your own standards.
For me, my standards are trying to define a style on a low-cost budget. Currently I’m a college student in Chicago obsessed with the art of fashion, but my budget can hinder the endless dreams I have about upgrading my wardrobe. So instead of pining over what I could be, I try to work with what I have and what I can afford. I’m all about expression, especially with style, and sometimes that style may not exactly match what the fashion world says. But it’s where I feel most comfortable.
And that’s how this blog came to be! Coffee & Chambray is the perfect way to describe my style. My hope in this blog is to express the way I do style and to also inspire others to not be afraid in expressing themselves with their own distinctive appearance.
“Give a girl the right shoes, and she can conquer the world.” | by elizabeth savetsky
“Give a girl the right shoes, and she can conquer the world.” –Marilyn Monroe
There are certain significant moments in our lives that we remember and cling on to over the years. I grew up in Fort Worth, Texas and, like many of you reading this, wore a uniform to school every day from ages 6-18. I didn’t know I had a passion for fashion because I didn’t really know what fashion was. But then there was the moment. The moment I first set foot in the Nordstrom shoe department. I was all of 8 years old and knew I had found my calling.
When Hashem made me, he added some SOLE to my SOUL. What followed my life-altering Nordies visit? A pair of silver glitter combat boots that looked ferocious with my navy blue school jumper and left a trail of pixie dust everywhere I went. Several years later came my Bat Mitzvah with the theme “Lizzy’s Shoe-Be-Do.” And my first paycheck at 16 went to what else but a pair of Jimmy Choos! I’ve worn every amazing and awful trend in footwear fashion over the years from platform sneakers (high school) to fringed cowboy boots (college) to rainbow Rockstuds (current). So, what is it about the statement shoe that appeals to so many of us?
Any fashion-loving gal knows that the right shoe can take a look from frump to fab (and vice versa), but it goes deeper than that. A metallic stiletto or a bright pink pump does something to a woman’s attitude that even the most beautiful handbag or bauble cannot. The statement shoe has a special power to make us walk taller, both literally and figuratively. A confident woman is a force to be reckoned with. Confidence breeds success, happiness, and love for yourself and others. So next time you want to buy a pair of “impractical” heels that you think cost too much, remind yourself that confidence starts from the ground up. These are the shoes that could inspire you to: start a business, get a job promotion, cook a 5-course dinner from scratch for your family, volunteer to chair an event for your synagogue, or just smile bigger and brighter to spread love to the world around you. Did I just justify my rainbow Rockstud purchase? I think so.
*Photos via Dylan’s Candy Bar: 1011 3rd Avenue, New York, NY; tel: (646) 735-0078; dylanscandybar.com
About the Author: “A little bit country, a little bit rock ‘n’ roll, I’m a Texas gal with a New York City heart… and New York City shoes.” Brand Ambassador for Erickson Beamon and Excessories Expert blogger Elizabeth Savetsky is a “happy wife and mama of a two future fashionistas”—and a self-confessed accessory addict.